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[desertvixen]

Am I being unreasonable to expect Adrianna's father to have set plans for his summer visiting (all 10 days or so of it) finalized less than a month out?

I understand he's been traveling a lot for work, but he also just went on a vacation cruise, without getting back to me about her travel plans.

This is exacerbated by the fact that the travel period is just before I PCS, so there's a lot of moving parts.

F*CK.

DV

Comments

[castiron.livejournal.com]

No, you're not unreasonable.

(Granted, I say this as someone who has nebulous plans for a family trip less than a month out, but 1. it's due to a genuine complication of plans that came up last week, and 2. it's not a visit to my minor child who I don't see much of.)

[xinef.livejournal.com]

Right. I'm allowed to be nebulous for my vacation plans because they affect nobody but me and my husband. As soon as anyone else is affected, it is my responsibility to be responsible! So yes, you are not unreasonable at all to expect that and to be annoyed if that isn't happening.

[desert-vixen.livejournal.com]

Thank you both!

[dunmurderin.livejournal.com]

No, no you are not. Takes five minutes to send an email or make a phone call.

[desert-vixen.livejournal.com]

Thanks... especially when you have time to go on a cruise, but not make travel plans. Plus, guess what, some of his travel plans are now super expensive...

[recalcitrant.livejournal.com]

Nope, not unreasonable at all

[desert-vixen.livejournal.com]

Thanks!

[raeyn.livejournal.com]

I presume by that you mean an actual plan of action to include her major travel rather than a day-to-day itinerary? Whatever the case, considering how much you've got going on, I don't think it unreasonable for him to work with you to make sure she's taken care of.

[desert-vixen.livejournal.com]

Yes, just the major stuff, like plane tickets. I know he's planning to take her to Central FL to visit his mom (of which I heartily approve, because she has not seen A in a very long time) and doing something at Disney World, but dates and times of places I need to be, especially while I am trying to PCS are handy. He'll be bringing her back the day our movers are supposed to load up.

[garpu.livejournal.com]

Not in the least. If anything, I'd say you're showing remarkable restraint.

[desert-vixen.livejournal.com]

Thanks. I'm careful to use my "studied polite tone" in all emails, no matter how annoyed I am,

[kishiriadgr.livejournal.com]

Adrianna's father is such a dck. Nobody will ever forgive him.

[desert-vixen.livejournal.com]

Pretty much. But she still loves him and I am personally excited about not having Adrianna underfoot while they pack the house.

[xinef.livejournal.com]

Kudos to you that she still loves him.

[desert-vixen.livejournal.com]

Thanks!

[filkferengi]

You've definitely rolled critical successes on both your self-control and raise child skill checks; brava!

Whither will you PCS?

[desert-vixen.livejournal.com]

Oh, those rolls will be tested in the upcoming month...

We are headed off to Fort Knox, Kentucky.

[filkferengi]

It's beautiful country, but what a sweltering time to be moving, on top of everything else.

Email me your new address when you get the chance?

[desert-vixen.livejournal.com]

I will. Sweltering is a good word for it...

[filkferengi]

Isn't it? It's all evocative and yet so...polite [i.e., expletive-free].

:)