Linked Wisdom from Marna

[desertvixen]

 From commodorified's journal, I present the following links:

Men Asking Repeatedly Is Not Women's Fault

This one comes with a side of "talking about how you'd beat the crap out of a rapist isn't actually useful or helpful".  One of the many off-shoots of the OSBP deal.  I'm working on my own post on that, but I'm also trying to get laundry done, so it may not happen tonight.

And, in a link that the fabulous commodorified proivided, synecdochic is talking about That Guy (and why he's such a problem).

DV (yes, I finally figured out how to get words for the links!)

Comments

Re: My 2 cents. Will change be forthcoming?

[desert-vixen.livejournal.com]

Even if, by "protect" all they can do is register disapproval when some yobbo starts spouting off in the locker room.

At least with the men I know, this one happens rather infrequently. A lot of times, no one wants to be the Guy With No Sense of Humor. But yes, it IS useful because it helps establish where the line is. I think the best thing I've heard on that one is to mentally replace the "chick" in the joke with your mother, your wife, or your daughter - and see if it's still funny.


I also disagree that "we as a society," by which I mean, the general run of citizenry in the U.S. are quite willing to enforce that rule on EVERY rapist, even the 19-year-old next door.

On this one, yes, we are going to have to disagree. Because a lot of times it is not getting enforced. A lot of times, even when the rape is caught on videotape, the victim is branded a Slut. A Whore. She Must Have Wanted It. She Didn't Say No. And Why Was She Wearing That Short Skirt, Anyway?

DV

Re: My 2 cents. Will change be forthcoming?

[carbonelle.livejournal.com]

I think the best thing I've heard on that one is to mentally replace the "chick" in the joke with your mother, your wife, or your daughter - and see if it's still funny.

That's a very good one--have to remember it.