When I first read your post, I thought it was a good idea about the mandatory marriage counseling. But after reading the comments I agree that the idea of the military making counseling mandatory would be not well-received. I know everytime my husband came home with a mandatory Navy meeting I had to attend I would instantly bitch that I wasn't in the f'ing Navy so why was it mandatory for me?
In Groton, the MWR had marriage enrichment classes offered every few weeks. I thought about going to one at one point, but my husband refused to go. I never did go, because at the time we were fine. There had been a point about a year earlier when I was truly considering leaving my husband because life was just too hard and miserable with him. What saved us was that I had a wonderful support system in place. I loved Groton, was close enough to my family, and had a lot of friends and activities to get me through each day.
I don't know what to suggest to make it better. I know the military needs to do something, though. I always had the impression that the Navy really doesn't care about our family problems, and if we had issues we needed to take it up with the Ombudsman. But then they would talk about how important it is to the military member to have a strong marriage and family life.
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In Groton, the MWR had marriage enrichment classes offered every few weeks. I thought about going to one at one point, but my husband refused to go. I never did go, because at the time we were fine. There had been a point about a year earlier when I was truly considering leaving my husband because life was just too hard and miserable with him. What saved us was that I had a wonderful support system in place. I loved Groton, was close enough to my family, and had a lot of friends and activities to get me through each day.
I don't know what to suggest to make it better. I know the military needs to do something, though. I always had the impression that the Navy really doesn't care about our family problems, and if we had issues we needed to take it up with the Ombudsman. But then they would talk about how important it is to the military member to have a strong marriage and family life.