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[desertvixen]

So, I'm bored, and Adrianna wants to eat lots.

For lack of better entertainment, I wandered into childfree. A bit harsh in there, but hey, having kids is NOT for everyone. Even when you really want to have kids, they're still a lot of hard work. I just find it interesting to check out various viewpoints.

While I was in there, I picked up this link: http://www.aboverubies.org/articles/101.html

101 Reasons For Having Children.

This is better than the Prairie Muffin Manifesto bit. Same mindset, although these folks have their own magazine. Not listing all of them, just some of my favorites.

We not only want to receive gifts from God for ourselves, but we want to give more gifts to the world. Every God gives us is a gift to the world

It's an honor for the Lord to use my womb again.

The birth of a baby is the ultimate fulfillment of love between a husband and wife. Each child is an unbreakable bond between a father and mother.

Well, yes. Even if you get divorced, you're still tied to that person in some way. Not that this is always a good thing.

I'll have more hands to help.

I'll have more babies to nurse and therefore less risk of breast cancer.

It's just as easy to cook for ten as it is for one!

We want to establish a godly dynasty that will continue down the generations to come.

We desire to raise up a standard for God in this evil day.

I'm replenishing the earth with godly seed.

To be open to more children shows our present children that we love them. How can our children understand the love of God if we have the attitude that a certain number of children is too many?

I want to rear strong soldiers for the Lord.

My body was created for this purpose.

I want to yield my womb as a living sacrifice to God.

Babies are also a blessing to other people. They sure love to hold and cuddle mine. Since my siblings have stopped at two children per family, I want to supply them for my parents and everyone else's pleasure.

Yikes. I guess if it's working for them, go for it.

If things go as we plan, Adrianna will have a younger male sibling - and her furry siblings, of course. I love being a mother, but I want us to be able to have nice things for our children.

DV

Comments

[norabombay.livejournal.com]

I'm feeling the urge to have a tubal ligation.

Actually, it's that god helps those who help themselves, and the fact is that by having far more children than you can afford or take care of you are doing no one favors.

I'm quite sympathetic to the fact that some people want multiple children. I just don't think that they have the answers over at the Above rubies site.

Because I think I can serve the lord in ways unrelated to the contents of my uterus.

Actually, I like kids. I wouldn't mind having one or two. But I know my self, and I could never handle a half dozen of them...

[garpu.livejournal.com]

*nodnod* I'm eyeing the plastic knife I got with my bagel and wondering how easy they are to do on yourself.

(Wandered over from tepintzin)

[freespirit127.livejournal.com]

I'll have more babies to nurse and therefore less risk of breast cancer.

/sarcasm Does that mean if my grandma had had more than her six children she wouldn't hve died from breats cancer in the first place? /end sarcasm

Babies are also a blessing to other people. They sure love to hold and cuddle mine. Since my siblings have stopped at two children per family, I want to supply them for my parents and everyone else's pleasure.

Now opening in your town: Nutcase's baby factory. Pick one - get one free.

Sorry, I just couldn't resist. I'd like to have children too one day, but still...

[gi-janearng.livejournal.com]

(Insert lame Catholic birth control comment here.)

While I am a Christian, I find this list very cult-like and scary by all forms of the word.

Thought I'd pop in too, to let you know I added you to my f-list.

[rockahulababy.livejournal.com]

I used to lurk at childfree just for something to read.

What a bunch of sexist horse shit, though. My uterus belongs to me and I'll be the one who decides whether or not I'll have children and if so (which I would like), how many I will have.

And sorry, having ten kids will not make the world a more "holy" place. And if you need to have children to rely on your higher power, then how serious are you about your religion? ("You" being general, of course.)

[castiron.livejournal.com]

Ah, well, I bet they'd be just as bemused by my reasons to probably stick with one as I am for their reasons for having more. ("Because I love being a mother, I enjoy the challenges of managing a large family, and this is how I want to make my mark on the world" -- that makes sense to me. "I'm replenishing the earth with godly seed" -- yeah, my travelling preacher great-grandparents probably thought the same; too bad they ended up with a bunch of wild grandkids.)

(Okay, actually, I understand the "I want to raise kids in my beliefs so that there'll be more people like that in the world", even if I find their wording strange. I even thought somewhat that way myself, and my ex strongly thought that way. And then we got an autistic child....)

I really think it's a vocation, though. Some women really are called to rear large families, and if their finances allow and they've had the sense to marry men who are happy with the idea, they should have as many kids as they want. But most women seem to be pretty satisfied with two or three, or one, or none.