I agree with you. I too, find it annoying that a lot of the emphasis is always placed on civilian female wives/girlfriends. I think it's a lot harder to be a dual-military marriage and/or relationship. Most of the married soldiers I know that are in dual-military marriages, are away from their spouse. One girl's husband got in from Korea a few months ago, but was being deployed again. Another girl will be joining her husband in Texas, once her medboard goes through (and has spent most of her time in service deployed).
On another note, I don't really believe it's the military's responsibility to fix someone's marriage. I don't want them meddling in my life and forcing me to go through counseling just to get married. I really don't think it's going to help matters. I think it should be offered, but I don't think it should be forced. If two people want to get married, it's not going to stop them. They just will go through the motions to get what they want. The only difference is, they'll have one more thing to complain about and it'll delay their process a little longer than it would have been without it.
But what are you going to do about soldiers who go to Vegas? Punish them under UCMJ because they didn't go through their mandatory counseling?
The thing about that is, the whole marriage deal is run by the state, not by the military. So there wouldn't be anyway to enforce it, at least not beforehand. Afterwards, maybe.
I still don't like the idea. Just like I don't like the idea of an NCO being able to order me to walk in another direction because they feel that "I'm at risk".
This is a difficult situation, because it deals with people's personal lives. One couple may wait until the time is right to get married, while another throws caution to the wind and gets married after a few months of knowing each other.
What fuels it for the military, I think, is the benefits.
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Date: 2005-08-05 09:49 am (UTC)On another note, I don't really believe it's the military's responsibility to fix someone's marriage. I don't want them meddling in my life and forcing me to go through counseling just to get married. I really don't think it's going to help matters. I think it should be offered, but I don't think it should be forced. If two people want to get married, it's not going to stop them. They just will go through the motions to get what they want. The only difference is, they'll have one more thing to complain about and it'll delay their process a little longer than it would have been without it.
But what are you going to do about soldiers who go to Vegas? Punish them under UCMJ because they didn't go through their mandatory counseling?
The thing about that is, the whole marriage deal is run by the state, not by the military. So there wouldn't be anyway to enforce it, at least not beforehand. Afterwards, maybe.
I still don't like the idea. Just like I don't like the idea of an NCO being able to order me to walk in another direction because they feel that "I'm at risk".
This is a difficult situation, because it deals with people's personal lives. One couple may wait until the time is right to get married, while another throws caution to the wind and gets married after a few months of knowing each other.
What fuels it for the military, I think, is the benefits.