Someone with views like that shouldn't be allowed anywhere near rape victims. Blaming the victim just has to stop. Men as a group do seem to be more visual in what attracts them, but the ones I know are all perfectly capable of controlling themselves and they know the difference between admiring a woman and raping her. I do think that people should think about what their choices in clothing say to others though. Some situations are more appropriate for skimpy or otherwise suggestive clothing than others. Rape should never be the consequence of wearing the "wrong" clothing though and I don't particularly believe that clothing is the cause of most rape. People need to stop beating on the drum of blaming the way women dress for rape.

Switching to another of your points, I do believe there are differences between some date rape and traditional rape. I'm not sure that date rape really is always about the man trying to control the woman as such. I think it is sometimes about the man being too out of control of himself to believe the woman isn't interested. Unfortunately I also think that some claims of date rape are really about the woman changing her mind after the fact. False claims just make things worse for the people who really are raped and make no mistake about it, real date rape is every bit as much rape as other forms of rape. In some ways it is worse because it often involves someone who was trusted to some extent rather than a stranger.