"I think that when you get married you have consented to sex. That's what marriage is all about."
I would imagine that Ms. Schlafy is probably one of the first people to "defend" marriage and the traditional family and here she is making statements that undermine any good that marriage can represent.
What I find most repellent (and I am going to spare you the laundry list of things I find distateful about her statements) is that she skirts the issue of providing a moral framework for sex in a marriage by bringing in the statement, "it's a he said-she said where it's just too easy to lie about it."
If she actually sees marriage in such a legalistic way I think she misses the point completely. Call me old fashioned (I own it, I am) but I believe that there is a right way and a wrong way to love a person. Sex is a complimentary part of a marriage but it is hardly the center of a marriage (at least past the first couple of months). To conflate sex with rape, and then to conflate communication in a marriage into "he said, she said." is outrageous. A wife is not property. I like to think that in the real world, vs. Ms. Schafley's dream world, most men realize this. Granted, I think getting a man to do chores is always going to be a hassle, but to justify rape or any form of sexual abuse is offensive to women, to men and to the institution of marriage.
It is so outrageous I can't even make my point coherently.
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I would imagine that Ms. Schlafy is probably one of the first people to "defend" marriage and the traditional family and here she is making statements that undermine any good that marriage can represent.
What I find most repellent (and I am going to spare you the laundry list of things I find distateful about her statements) is that she skirts the issue of providing a moral framework for sex in a marriage by bringing in the statement, "it's a he said-she said where it's just too easy to lie about it."
If she actually sees marriage in such a legalistic way I think she misses the point completely. Call me old fashioned (I own it, I am) but I believe that there is a right way and a wrong way to love a person. Sex is a complimentary part of a marriage but it is hardly the center of a marriage (at least past the first couple of months). To conflate sex with rape, and then to conflate communication in a marriage into "he said, she said." is outrageous. A wife is not property. I like to think that in the real world, vs. Ms. Schafley's dream world, most men realize this. Granted, I think getting a man to do chores is always going to be a hassle, but to justify rape or any form of sexual abuse is offensive to women, to men and to the institution of marriage.
It is so outrageous I can't even make my point coherently.